Setting Impossible Expectations Only Leads to Failure

Iv’e been thinking a lot about the idea of setting impossible expectations today and how so often we set ourselves up for such failure. I am a huge fan of “to-do” lists. I make list after list after list of things that need to get done. My mind is so over-crowded with everything that I need to remember, that things just get squeezed out if I don’t write them down. So nearly every day, I sit down and make a list. It could be a grocery list, a list of projects I need to get done, a list of things that need cleaned up, a list of dinners I want to make, a list of items that needed to be listed on Ebay, a list of emails and phone calls that need to be made, and they all fall under the ever towering category of “TO DO”. But what so often happens is that my list starts off with a few reasonable things, and then grows into this monstrosity of things that I could not possible get done even if I had no other responsibilities in my life. (more…)

Don’t get divorced over carpet.


She wants a dream closet like Carrie Bradshaw’s in Sex and the City. He says “sure honey, get what you want.” She wants that beautiful sculpted carpet for the bedroom she saw on Houzz, and he says ” I want you to have the one you’ve been waiting for.” She’s finally going to remodel the bathroom, and he tells her to bring home tile samples. “Do you want to go with me?” She asks. “No, I trust your judgement,” he says. She does her homework, researches the best source in town and finally makes the trip. And, oh my goodness the selection! The selection!! What should she choose, there are so many beautiful ones. “I could go dark” she says to herself, “maybe I should go light to keep it bright and open, why didn’t I hire an interior designer to help me with this? I have no clue what I’m doing.”